If you’re not completely disconnected from any media, whether it’s written or recorded and have been bombarded with terms like “dysfunctional relationship”, “codependency” and “toxic family system”. You might have seen that there’s lots of information on the relationship, however not as much on what to do regarding these relationships. This month, I’d like to provide a quick outline of the different terms and their meanings as well as a description of the differences between healthy and unhealthy ones.
Dysfunctional Relationships are those that are not performing their intended purpose; that is, they don’t help the participants emotionally or encourage interaction between them, properly challenge them or help prepare them for the world outside.
Codependency is when one or both parties who are in a relationship have made an effort to make the relationships more valuable than they actually are to themselves. A typical codependent is at a crossroads with a person who is in a state of denial due to addiction, alcoholism or violent behavior. However, codependency has been lately used to refer to any person who feels overwhelmed, powerless and overwhelmed in an intimate relationship or are not able to break up with an unhappy relationship or one that is abusive.
Family Systems that are toxic Systems are those relationships (beginning with the family of childhood, and continuing through adulthood) which are physically physical, emotional or psychologically harmful to all or some of the members. Codependent relationships can also be toxic but”toxic” is a term used to describe them “toxic” is usually used to refer to the more violent varieties.
In essence the simplest sense, all three words are used to describe relationships that have unhealthy interactions, and don’t effectively improve the lives of the individuals in the relationship. The people in these relationships do not have the responsibility of the quality of their lives or the relationship successful.
The severity of codependency, dysfunction or toxic relationships can differ. The majority of us are somewhat dependent, and thus dysfunctional at times — particularly when exhausted, stressed, or otherwise overwhelmed. What differentiates the normal human frailty and real clinical dysfunction is our capacity to identify, confront and address dysfunction whenever it manifests within our personal relationships.
The most important thing to think about is: what’s not working and how can we fix it? the situation work? When confronted with a relationship issue or disagreement, instinctively start to seek out a villain or a culprit. They seek out who is responsible. In response to a situation, trying to find some one to blame (even when it’s not you) is a faulty reaction. The question that is relevant isn’t, “Whose fault is it?” rather “What can we do to solve the problem?”
Try it out and you’ll realize that not focusing on blameing anybody (yourself and your companion) and instead focusing on solving the issue, can make a significant difference in your relationships. Families that sit together, during a family-style meeting, in which everyone, even the children, is able to talk about the issue from their own point of view and collaborates to resolve the issue, will become functional quickly.
Couples who can sit together to discuss issues calmly without blame, blaming and blaming, discover that finding a mutual solution to their issues increases their trust, intimacy and binds them. There is nothing that binds you more strongly than the knowledge that by working together you will be able to solve any problems that occur.
There is no perfect relationship and the way to engage with your loved one isn’t something that can be planned out ahead of time. You can, however, learn fundamental communication skills, boost confidence in yourself, and create ways to cultivate healthy, equal, and balanced love before you meet and all of this will help make your relationship, if you do get it, more effective. However, since you are unique and your partner is too What works best for you has to be developed on the spot. The only way I’ve found how to accomplish this is through my experience, experience in communication and negotiation.
If you are aware how your relationships, if you want it to succeed, must be healthy and enjoyable for both of you and you also know that putting your partner’s desires, feelings and needs over your own is just the same as placing your own wants, needs and emotions ahead of your partner’s.
Focusing on solving issues and problems in a team, and through an honest and transparent communication, you’ll be able to find the balance. This means that you can collaborate to ensure that each of you gets your wants and needs fulfilled, and you will each be equally concerned about your satisfaction wellbeing and happiness.
A different definition of love can degrade into codependency and dysfunction and could be detrimental for both you and your partner. To determine if the solutions can be mutually beneficial is straightforward – simply inquire with your partner about how it is feeling and whether it’s effective. Starting the relationship by keeping this notion in your mind, or reviving the relationship you have with this approach, is significantly easier and more enjoyable than you think. I would like you to shift your focus away from who is responsible to the solution that will resolve the issue and also to improve the level of communication and mutuality within your relationship. Watch any dysfunctional interactions you may have either severe or light reduce significantly. It’s possible to do this in your home relationships, among your parents siblings, your children, as well as with your colleagues and friends.