Some may think you’ve been a liar to them. Did you commit or do something wrong? It’s not that difficult to break the personal commitment. We can also betray the work of a colleague when we give credit to their work. or if we do not defend the person who is unfairly slams them on their own. I might be a breach of an acquaintance’s trust if would gossip about the embarrassing personal issue that he or she confided to me.
Author John Gottman’s How Does Love Last? describes betrayal as at the root of every infidelity in a sexual relationship even whether the couple is aware of it. The most obvious form of betrayal is sexual infidelity. Other examples of betrayal are lying or being unjust, as well as showing disdain.
Betraying an important notion
Betraying someone is a common subject in fiction works. It is also the deceit or a concept. Which of us actually been steadfastly loyal to an idea we consider important – maybe an idealistic political idea or ethical principle, or even a sense of calling? As I have, have you ever regretted an important decision? Have you failed to keep faith with your primary direction?
There are people who are willing to sacrifice a lot to work according to professional ethics like the duty of care, fighting for social justice or the protection of the environment. We who aren’t committed to a political or social cause are likely to be confused by the feeling of guilt and shame felt by people who feel they’ve failed in their task. They haven’t been able to live up to the ideals that gave them purpose and meaning in their lives. People who feel that their actions violated a fundamental principal.
They are not emotions that are easy to argue over. This type of conscience is much more than social learning or fear of the opinions people might believe. It’s a matter of more profound awareness.
Betraying the love of your life
In the event that we lose the trust of a person who isn’t important to us, and we were to betray their trust, perhaps we wouldn’t worry about it in the first place. it. It could have negative external consequences, like losing any benefits that the relationship provides us, or even affecting our social standing. But, how awful it would be to disappoint one we love like our parents, kids or a loving spouse. We are afraid to do anything that might upset them. or behave in a manner that could harm our relationship.
Betrayed by those who are religious
One could view the guilt of a person who is religious as a result of backsliding or straying from their ideal beliefs. However, I’d like to suggest that for a lot of people it is more about being a victim of those who are loved. For them, this is the spirit of God whose presence was felt within their own souls. By failing to curb their cravings or control their own selfish impulses and desires, they appear to have built a subjective line of separation with an ethereal all-rounder and a supporter.
They knew of the one with whom they would pray from person to person. In their eyes they believed that it was their Lord who they shared their secrets and offered them comfort and encouragement. What a terrible feeling it would feel to lose a significant commitmentand let the best of one’s most trusted, but an invisible friend.
Christian existentialists like Soren Kierkegaard recognize the necessity of living an authentic confession, for a real review of one’s motivations and actions, as well as an honest and open approach to and battling against the destabilizing forces within oneself.
Reaction to those who betray
Julie Fitness, a psychologist has written and studied the effects of betrayal on relationships. If you’re dependent on someone to provide support and care and you breach the trust you have placed in them, it is like a punch to the heart, leaving the person who was trusted feeling unsecure as well as lonely and depressed.
We haven’t put our nation to danger by providing information to the enemy. However, there are times when in Great Britain traitors have in the past been hanged or dragged and killed in quarters. It is a horrible death for anyone to suffer, which reveals the anger of society in response to the betrayal of.
Author F Diane Barth interviewed numerous women who complained of being disloyal by friends who were unable to tolerate or help them through illnesses, a divorce and the separation of their parent or spouse. Anger can quickly turn to hurt that could hinder the renewing of the friendship. However, anger can motivate people to confront the other person with a fair exchange. This often allows a working through of the problem.
On contrary it is possible to minimize or deny the anger and hurt. As per Jennifer Freyd of the University of Oregon the perpetrators and even witnesses can display “betrayal blindness” in order to protect their the personal relationships they have with each other, as well as their connections with institutions and the social structures on that they are reliant.
Reacting to an act of betrayal that is shocking
In the Bible story, Christ showed no sign of anger, even when he was being betrayed by Judas Iscariot One of the men who he referred to as his friends. Even in the midst of the terrible consequences of being unfairly accused of treason and cruelly punished by his enemies and then being tortured until death at the cross.
The reaction of Jesus to the betrayal was a calming acceptance. There was no denial of the fact that he had been betrayed because Jesus actually anticipated that it would happen. We might have given in to the desire to be bitterly angry, complain or express anger, perhaps even cursing the person who caused our loss.
Like many major setbacks in life, betrayal is a thing that we will likely have to deal with at some moment. We might need to consider the price of not having faith with the people we cherish. We also have real options in what we do when someone rips us down, someone we thought we could trust.
As a clinical psychologist, Stephen Russell-Lacy has specialised in cognitive-behavioural psychotherapy, working for many years with adults suffering distress and disturbance.
He is the editor for Spiritual Questions, an e-zine that is free and explores the connection between spiritual philosophy as well as the thoughts and comments that spiritualists have. You are able to express your opinions and learn more about how to make sense of the world around you.
The book Heart Hands, Head and Heart is a bridge between the psycho-spiritual doctrines of the spiritualist Emanuel Swedenborg and current ideas regarding therapy and psychology.